Pleasure to Have Met You, Sara Melas

This particular scene in the movie "Hitch" illustrates a popular issue that men encounter when trying to get to know women (this may also apply equally as much for situations in which women are trying to get to know men). After a failed attempt by a man who clearly had no clue as to how to approach a woman correctly, Hitch makes his move, executing it perfectly might I add. Rather than getting a phone number out of the conversation, he instead instills the feeling of intrigue in Sara Melas. He does so by explaining how she has probably been hurt before, and due to her past experiences, she'll most likely dismiss anyone that approaches her in the future, no matter how charming or original they are. This catches her interest, and later in the movie they have more encounters and eventually end up having a relationship together.

More on the subject of their introductory conversation: past experiences make it rather difficult to give another relationship a chance at forming. When all you've known is anguish when it comes to relationships, you grow to expect it, changing the way you deal with situations. Someone who has had a relationship or two (that ended on a good note) would be more willing to start anew, as opposed to someone who has had several relationships that ended in heartbreak. Experiences, good or bad, are learning modules for every-day life. If you touch a hot stove, it burns you, and you know not to touch a hot stove ever again. If you gradually study for a test a week ahead of time and you get receive an A on it, you learn that your method was a success, and that continuing to do should yield similar results. Our experiences shape our outlook on life, our opinions, and what we know about the world. It is only right that we use them to judge/form predictions about what would happen if we were to try and begin a relationship with someone.

However, we have to recognize that this isn't always fair, and that we might be missing out on a great opportunity. Of course, not every relationship you have will be perfect, but then again, they won't all be bad either. Giving every one the benefit of the doubt, in combination with using one's better judgment, will make for the best decisions and healthiest relationship experiences. If you go into a situation closed-minded, you simply won't be able to appreciate everything, and some vital aspects might not be visible to you.